Where were you on July 4, 2019? Most likely eating a hot dog and some watermelon, waiting for the fireworks to begin? Well, for Xandra and Riley, they were about to meet For the very first time. They met that night, four years ago, set up on a blind date by one of Xandra's many sisters. And while the only sparks that flew that night were in the night sky, something was brewing between the two of them.
Do you remember what were you doing on June 20th, 2020? While most of us were hunkered down and figuring out a path forward in the still evolving COVID pandemic, Riley and Xandra were having an incredibly small and discreet wedding, in Xandra's parents' backyard. Immediate family attended but that was it. They knew they wanted to get married and wanted to tackle whatever was to come next TOGETHER.
Any idea what happened in your life for the two weeks following? The brand new Egge Family was soon blindsided by a situation that would test their resolve and their bourgeoning relationship, and help them redefine community and what it should look like for them as they tentatively stepped back into it.
Riley: She was really cute and definitely not interested in me!
Discovery Community Church: First off, I'm always curious as to who grew up in the church and who didn't. I find that's where my assumptions fade and curiosity grows! So, were either of you in church as kids?
Riley Egge: I have been going to church for as long as I can remember. As a kid, I really enjoyed Sunday school because my dad led children's worship on the guitar, which made me want to learn how to play. When I was young, I remember having such a close relationship with Jesus, where I would ask Him silly questions, and He would answer, like if I lost my football and cried, I would ask Jesus where it was, and He would help me find it.
Xandra Egge: I grew up in church as well, but had a completely different experience. My siblings and I were the only brown kids at a hyper-conservative white Presbyterian church. So to me, the whole thing was uncomfortable and also super boring.
DCC: So, Xandra, how did that shape your view of church moving forward? Did you become more selective about where you attended as a grown up?
XE: Definitely! Now, I try to experience church on my own terms, and not blindly, in spaces where I feel safe and can relearn Jesus's love and what that means for me.
DCC: Is that what initially drew you to Discovery?
XE: It was one of the things, yes. I liked that it was in a familiar spot. I grew up right down the road, off 56th and A St. Then, I was drawn to the different groups around racial equity and learning. I don't think God's love is avoidant, so it was important to me that this was a church that was responding to community hurts in real time.
RE: Xandra and I fasted and prayed for an extended period of time when we were looking for a new church. As we did, we wrote down 3 main things we were looking for in a church: 1) A church where we can be ourselves, let our walls down and grow with others in the community. 2) A church that is actively investing in its community. 3) A church that is deeply committed to doing racial reconciliation work, so that the manifold(multicolored) wisdom of God would be made known.
DCC: Those were some of my reasons, too!
Xandra: He was very present. I noticed his green eyes and I was like, yeah, that’s pretty cute.